One thing I love about my husband is his eagerness to learn. Whenever there is something he doesn't quite understand or something he knows only little about, he never holds back from asking questions. Any opportunity to learn or know more about something he dives in head-first, a hungry apprentice.
Maybe it's that, while my especially English nature feeds my reservations, his external and outgoing Venezuelan roots are aiding his inquisitiveness. Or, it could simply be down to a hand we were once dealt in a game of personality. (I don't really think that!!)
Whatever reasons lie behind why some of us are naturally given some attributes and others of us are naturally given others, a thirst for knowledge and collecting advice is an attribute my husband has inspired me to enhance in myself.
On our honeymoon we met an elderly married couple in the hot tub. We spoke with them for nearly an hour and on parting, decided to ask for one piece of marital advice from each of them. We have since asked this question to other married people and have started compiling a bit of a list;
Rodger and Fran (ex English teacher)
"Do whatever she tells you to." "If you argue, make sure to use good grammar.. and on a more serious note.. whatever you do, make sure your children always see that their mother loves their father."
"Pray together every night before bed. Take turns - let the man take the odd days and the woman take the even. Because men are odd."
"Notice every couple that you think has a good marriage and every couple whose children are well behaved and invite yourselves over to their houses. Ask them what makes their marriage and family great and make notes on what they tell you."
Advice comes from the heart of experience and is totally and fully free. I feel stupid for not prioritizing it sooner!!! I know marriage is meant to be hard, people keep telling me that. My husband and I at this moment in time have nothing in the way of employment, little in the way of money but lots in the way of love.
I will continue adding to my compilation of counsel, but know that it is a different skill entirely to try and apply any of it! Thankfully, we have tomorrow and all the tomorrow's after that to work at it :)
Brit. U.S.resident. Lover of Opera. Believer of dreams.